Monday, January 7, 2013

My Sad, Sad Childhood

I know Christmas just ended and man how crazy was Pinterest with all the elf on a shelf ideas!?  They were pretty cute though and if I wasn't so lazy I may consider it for our son once he is older.  Well, except for another big issue...we aren't going to tell him Santa is real.  Everyone can gasp now.  Start breathing again.  Try not to want to hurt me...

I once started a major scene at work because I mentioned that my parent's never pretended Santa was real.  I always knew he didn't exist.  Pretty much everyone in the office was appalled.   I was shocked that it was a big deal to anyone.  Some were sad for me, like I had missed out on childhood all together.

They told me all the things they did with their children to ensure their children believed in Santa.  They told me what their parents had done as well.  When I told them we wouldn't pretend with our (future at the time) kids either they were aghast.  Seriously.  I called my husband then and there at their urging and he confirmed that he had no plans of pretending Santa was real.  The office was in a tailspin!

All that to ask...is Santa real in your house?  What did your parents do?  What do you do to make your little ones believe?  I want stories too.  It is fascinating to me the lengths some people go to.  I seriously am not judging and find the stories pretty cute!

It seems like a lie to us, and frankly we aren't good liars.  And we are a bit lazy.

Plus, to us it takes away from the real meaning of Christmas and honestly, that is the biggest issue we have with it.  And we are lazy.

3 comments:

  1. haha! This is funny! This can be a touchy topic especially among Christians. I am a Christian that believes that Christmas is about Christ and hate how as a society we have really lost that focus. However, I have allowed my kids to believe it Santa Claus. I have not told them about him or made him important at all. They hear about it everywhere and I really don't have to teach them about Santa. We do have a story about St.Nicholas that I have tried to gear their thinking around.Here is a link to the story of St. Nicholas...http://www.whychristmas.com/customs/fatherchristmas.shtml
    My daughter was never one to really care too much about Santa and it was never a big issue. She quickly learned that he wasn't real and life went on from there.

    Then came our little boy with an imagination bigger than life. I can't explain enough how humongous his imagination is. He dresses up daily in costumes and pretends a good majority of the day. Again we did not teach him about Santa but once he heard about Santa it was an imaginative boys absolute dream come true. He has seen movies that have Santa in them which have definitely aided his thinking. We try not to say too much about if Santa is real. We also do not claim that presents are from Santa except for his stockings. This Christmas this came to a head when he asked why Santa only gives us gifts in our stockings. I pulled out a story book we have about St. Nicholas and was able to bring his focus back to God and loving others as God calls us to do. He was content with this. I do not know how long this will last and I do not plan to have to heap lie upon lie just to keep this alive. I do love to see his imagination at work and just allow it to take him where he wants to go without crushing him at this point with the honest truth. I did keep reminding him this Christmas season that Christmas is not about Santa but about the gift of Jesus. He knows that and was then telling others too that it was about Jesus and not Santa.

    Every parent has to decide how they are going to handle Santa but my hope for all is that we teach the real meaning behind Christmas.

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  2. It sounds like you have a good balance. I will definitely look at that link!

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  3. 1. I saw this on Pinterest and thought it was an interesting way to explain Santa that I hope to use one day. To me it's not about "lying", it's a way to teach kids to believe in something they can't physically see or touch, like Jesus.
    This is what it says....
    Dear ______,
    You asked a very good question: “Are you Santa?”
    I know you’ve wanted the answer to this question for a long time, and I’ve had to give it careful thought to know just what to say.
    The answer is no. I am not Santa. There is no one Santa.
    I am the person who fills your stockings with presents, though. I also choose and wrap the presents under the tree, the same way my mom did for me, and the same way her mom did for her. (And yes, Daddy helps, too.)
    I imagine you will someday do this for your children, and I know you will love seeing them run down the stairs on Christmas morning. You will love seeing them sit under the tree, their small faces lit with Christmas lights. This won’t make you Santa, though.
    Santa is bigger than any person, and his work has gone on longer than any of us have lived. What he does is simple, but it is powerful. He teaches children how to have belief in something they can’t see or touch.
    It’s a big job, and it’s an important one. Throughout your life, you will need this capacity to believe: in yourself, in your friends, in your talents and in your family. You’ll also need to believe in things you can’t measure or even hold in your hand. Here, I am talking about love, that great power that will light your life from the inside out, even during its darkest, coldest moments.
    Santa is a teacher, and I have been his student, and now you know the secret of how he gets down all those chimneys on Christmas Eve: he has help from all the people whose hearts he’s filled with joy.
    With full hearts, people like Daddy and me take our turns helping Santa do a job that would otherwise be impossible.
    So, no. I am not Santa. Santa is love and magic and hope and happiness. I’m on his team, and now you are, too.
    I love you and I always will.
    Mama

    2. Your in-laws/parents must be really cool because my in-laws would NEVER go along with NOT having my kids believe in Santa. They would talk about Santa all the time anyways! We are in our 30's and my Mother-in-law still signs some of our gifts from "Santa". haha! I think it's funny.

    3. You can do elf on the shelf and just make up a different story that doesn't have to do with Santa. My nephew did elf on a shelf and he is only 21 months. He didn't get the whole Santa thing but he would wake up every morning and try to find the elf.

    4. I think as long as you still incorporate Jesus and what Christmas is about then Santa seems pretty harmless to me.

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