Sunday, July 7, 2013

Downers and Doubters

Ok, so I typically fit both of those adjectives. However, I am referring specifically to those folks that seem to enjoy bringing others down when they are trying to make positive changes.

How many times has a friend or family member essentially put down a positive change you were trying to make? I know it has happened to me and unfortunately I have no doubt done it to others.

We fear being lesser than, being left behind, and frankly it is hard to keep up our excuses when others are doing the thing we have failed at or given up on.

If you find yourself being a downer or doubter, think about why you are doing that. Do you want to make a change too? If so, go for it.

If someone is pooh poohing a positive change you are making keep in mind the reasons above. That is likely why they are doing it and don't let it get you down!

Tuesday, January 15, 2013

My Babysitter The TV

As I was working on a previous post about what you expose your kids to I was overwhelmed by the thought that honestly, not many parents really spend time thinking about what is and isn't ok for their children to watch.  It just sort of happens.  The tv is on much of the day in many households.

I had well meaning, good people tell me very shortly after we brought little one home to put him in front of the tv when I need to shower, cook, etc.  I was a bit shocked (not overly shocked, I have done social work, little shocks me).  I wasn't shocked that this is done, I know it is, but I was shocked by the number and range of people that mentioned this.  People that I thought were more like me...prudish.

Why have we become so ok with the idea that the tv is a babysitting device.  Now, I do get that some times it is really great to have a distraction for the child (long car rides, or the occassionally intentionally chosen video).  Yet, I have never seen a study touting the benefits of children watching tv.  I have only ever seen studies that caution parents about their kids watching too much tv and the wrong kinds of tv.

I realize that not using the tv can make parenting "harder".  It would have been easy to sit little man in front of the tv in his little bouncy seat and go about my business for a while.  That is not the type of parents we want to be.  We try to parent based on what we think will hopefully lead him to be a good man some day.   Would a little bit of tv ruin that, probably not.  But would it help?

Plus, I am not talking about a little bit of tv.  I found this article (link below) on a quick search (many seemed to show similar numbers).  Apparently, kids 2 and up watch more than 24 hours of tv a week!   Holy cow!  An entire day a week wasted on tv.  http://www.livestrong.com/article/222032-how-much-tv-does-the-average-child-watch-each-day/

The thing is, I know lots of people would read this and think I am unrealistic or dramatic.  I am just making a big deal out of nothing.  I wish I wasn't so lazy and I would point out studies about the risks associated with tv viewing.  I think as a thoughtful adult though you already know these things.  You know that kids mimic what they see.  You know they can get chubby being sedentary.  You know you aren't interacting with them while they watch.  You know they can get hyper or misbehave after too much tv.  You know they have seen things you would probably not have preferred.

I don't think tv is the devil (my husband and I watch it).  There are a lot of entertaining and interesting things to see on tv.  However, I am asking you to pay attention to what is flashing across that screen and make conscientious decisions about how much and what your children will be allowed to watch.

Is this something you have already been working on?
Do you notice changes in your kids behavior after watching certain tv shows?
Do you think I am a drama queen?

Sunday, January 13, 2013

If Everyone is a Winner, We All Lose

I was reading an opinion article recently about the upcoming generation being quite narcissistic.  Here is a link to the article http://www.foxnews.com/opinion/2013/01/08/are-raising-generation-deluded-narcissists/
It mentioned that kids in college are now more likely than ever to say they driven and gifted.  Yet, test scores are lower and students spend less time studying.

It goes on to talk about social media playing into this issue.  I certainly think that is a part of the issue.  The biggest factor though is obviously parenting.  It always comes back to us!  You can't dodge your responsibility as a parent.  We are the ones allowing social media, tv viewing, kids to think they can't fail, that they deserve success, and that they frankly are all perfect little angels.

If your kid grows up twittering his every little thought, facebooking his self portraits, and watching "reality" tv you likely will end up with a pretty twisted little mister.  He is likely to follow suit with his peers and think that everyone cares about his every passing of gas, meal, and relationship status.  He will think that success will just happen to him, and that he can do little wrong.

Seriously, how was Jersey Shore ever allowed on tv?!  How come so many people seemed to watch it!?

I beg you, fellow parents, caregivers, aunts, uncles, grandparents....please!  Focus on developing good character in the kids you love.  Our future is at risk.  I don't want our future leaders to be complete narcissistic hedonists.




Thursday, January 10, 2013

Something I Love

If you are low maintenance like me you might want to consider picking up a splurge item that I love!  It is Clinique Touch Base in canvas.

It is a creamy texture and about my skin tone. So for a pale lady like myself it gets rid of the pinky tone and veins on my eye lids.  They have other colors too that are great and I have tried many of them. I just keep coming back to canvas because their is no shimmer or anything.  You can layer any eye shadow over it and it helps it to last.

Honestly, I tend to just put it on by itself with some mascara and run out the door.  Cause I will forget if I use eye shadow and rub my eye and then be an even bigger hot mess than I already was.  So I just keep it simple!  Plus, there is that lazy thing again...

Tuesday, January 8, 2013

Something I Love

If you are looking for a new candle scent for the wintery season...run right now to Yankee Candle and pick up Warm Woolen Mittens.

It is warm, musky, woodsy, natural, and perfect! Not too girly, or manly.  Totally worth the price and even better if you can find a coupon!  Buy more than one.

I hope it is still available right now?!  It went fast last year.


Monday, January 7, 2013

My Sad, Sad Childhood

I know Christmas just ended and man how crazy was Pinterest with all the elf on a shelf ideas!?  They were pretty cute though and if I wasn't so lazy I may consider it for our son once he is older.  Well, except for another big issue...we aren't going to tell him Santa is real.  Everyone can gasp now.  Start breathing again.  Try not to want to hurt me...

I once started a major scene at work because I mentioned that my parent's never pretended Santa was real.  I always knew he didn't exist.  Pretty much everyone in the office was appalled.   I was shocked that it was a big deal to anyone.  Some were sad for me, like I had missed out on childhood all together.

They told me all the things they did with their children to ensure their children believed in Santa.  They told me what their parents had done as well.  When I told them we wouldn't pretend with our (future at the time) kids either they were aghast.  Seriously.  I called my husband then and there at their urging and he confirmed that he had no plans of pretending Santa was real.  The office was in a tailspin!

All that to ask...is Santa real in your house?  What did your parents do?  What do you do to make your little ones believe?  I want stories too.  It is fascinating to me the lengths some people go to.  I seriously am not judging and find the stories pretty cute!

It seems like a lie to us, and frankly we aren't good liars.  And we are a bit lazy.

Plus, to us it takes away from the real meaning of Christmas and honestly, that is the biggest issue we have with it.  And we are lazy.

Wednesday, November 28, 2012

Getting Lost in The Hunt

I LOVE a good deal!  I readily tell others about deals I get as in, "You like my shirt, it only cost $3!".  Not that anyone has said that to me in forever.  I look like a hot mess most of the time now!

During this black Friday and cyber Monday craziness (I prefer online shopping) I had to keep asking myself if I was wanting the item cause it was a good deal or because we did really need it.

Now, I definitely got a few things we didn't "need" for survival, but I tried hard to make sure what I got were things we were really wanting and would really use, and did to some extent need.  I did pretty good with the self control if I do say so myself.

When I see anything that is an awesome deal I suddenly think I really want, neigh, need, that thing.  Though it was never on the radar before.  I mean seriously, I don't even have space for more Tupperware (does anyone else have it perpetually cascade out of the cabinet when you open the door!?) but man it was hard to walk away!

Does anyone else have a hard time with this?!